Julie Stafford
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When my husband Bruce passed from cancer, in 2006, I took a journey, as a single woman, to explore who I could become in the next chapter of my life. My 30 year love story had ended. Before rocky small steps became confident leaps of faith, I was drawn to Dubrovnik - a city reborn from grief and redefined by the lessons and scars of war and a turbulent history. Dubrovnik began the redefinition of me. Later, I traveled to Italy. Italy's exuberance got me excited about life once more. In Paris - city of love, I asked if I was entitled to more than one extraordinary love story in one lifetime.

My first attempt at memoir - 'The Seagull, An Unexpected Love Story' - raw in its emotion, because it was written and lived in the immediate period just after Bruce's passing, will test the boundaries of your definition of love and what love is capable of when someone passes. My journey to process grief and heal from it, understanding what it means for a woman to lose love and rediscover love, affirms for me that life sometimes knocks you down so you can rise higher than you ever imagined, and how in the place you rise to, you so often find your higher more evolved self. In my pursuit to walk the road that I imagined was already written for me, I was pushed to take risks. I was directed to trust my innate instinct. Every infinitesimal moment of my life became important. The characters I met on my journey, important to my rebirth touched my heart and grew me. And, along the roads of my rebirth, inspired by one rather special seagull, I learned that if you want to fly you need to give up everything that weighs you down.

Along the way, through grief, I learned we are not our circumstance, but rather we are the possibility of the lessons written into our circumstance. And if we pay attention to the small detail of life, we will find the clues, in both the good and the not so good bits of life, specific to each of us that was always meant to be our driving force and our direction.

And so,
ten years on, trusting more and more on what my heart wanted me to know as a truth, I wanted to go back to my memoir, and embrace it from a whole new perspective, looking more at the relevance of seemingly inconsequential coincidences in the moment of them, but when looking back on them, and joining the dots, I discovered something that made great sense to me that has given me such a positive direction to live my life, in this new chapter of my life. My new memoir is called, 'Julie's Heart Voice', and from this edition a screenplay has been written for a proposed movie of the same name.

The greatest lesson of my journey, reminds me how age doesn't define who we are or who we can become only the song we hear resonating from our hearts defines us, if we are brave enough to believe in it.


I love Albert Einstein's... "Imaginationis more important than knowledge." He gives me approvalto daydream. Dr Robert Schuller's,"What would you attempt to do if youknew you could not fail?" makes me ponder the possibilities of life anddares me to dream bigger. John F Kennedy's, "There are risks and costs to aprogram of action, but they are far less than the long range risks and costsof comfortable inaction." stirs my thinking. Could he be talking directly to me and t...

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